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How to : Destroy your Relationship.

If you're a self-sabotager, this piece is for you.

There are hundreds of thousands of articles and blog posts on how to be a better boyfriend or girlfriend. Find out if they're cheating, or if your partner is a liar. This is not about saving your relationship, this is how you can kill your relationship without a chance of revival. These are based on years of cumulative experiences, experiments, and accidents. So this is how you snuff the life out of your relationship.

Be absolutely self-serving. 

Make the entire relationship about you, how can your partner engage in activities are beneficial to you alone not you as a couple? Make sure their existence is about you, how they can go out of their way every time to please you (including the sack). You MUST make sure they are a means to an end. Any chance of learning about each other or growing together, make it about your life, your own experiences, what you like and don't like. Their feelings are after all second to yours. It will do if you also have a loose mouth with them and spit whatever suits you at them.

Hear to reply; don't listen

It is much easier for a man when your partner is explaining something, please talk-over her (for all listening is not your job.
 maximum effectiveness use phrases like "trust me, I know this more than you"). If your partner is telling you their problem, it is very important that you assume you understand it better than them, don't just attempt to conceptualise it; just dive in and give them a solution. After



Leave them guessing

Be completely volatile in your actions, avoid being consistent at all costs. Occasionally sprinkle some broken promises to shatter every element of trust left in their naive mind. Don't worry about how they might feel because it is all about you.

Retrospect

When you get together with your partner (not in that way), badger them about their past. When they tell you it is imperative you take this three vital steps to help you reach your desired goal. 1. Judge them, 2. Keep receipts, 3. Bring it up whenever it is convenient. That way you make sure they are trapped in the past without a chance of growing. It is the best way to suffocate them. Retrospect can also be about seemingly neutral issues, just do whatever it takes to keep them from looking forward.

Programmer

Always try to change your partner to your fantasy one. Remind them they are not good enough for you, your family, or just in general. Here, you can poke at their insecurity and fears to keep them feeling constantly inadequate for you, because this is about how you feel always.




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