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Debutant

How I see relationships ,
is that it is relativity to the world,
every new relationship is us,
presenting ourselves to the world,
to other , a chaotic conundrum of perspective taking. 

It is also us consuming the universe, bringing foreign objects into our spheres and looking for safety from without. It is an ugly thing; then we take something so ugly and make it beautiful and shape it with our expectations of the ideals. Sometimes when we get it wrong, we are giving our pound of flesh for free. But then again, that is just my melancholic opinion. 

Sacrificing and defying archetypes for unreasonable reasons. In being selfish I learnt how to have a relationship with myself first , other second. But I also felt the pain of being whole, being an end in myself and a trust that starts with me and ends in my principles.  

Every new relationship is us, presenting our new selves to the world, debutants to the world of familiar for unreasonable reasons. Every new love is a negotiation of how much me in this 'self' can there be for 'other' to exist. 


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